All About Love
by Michael

I heard about Orgasmic Meditation through a personal development program. I was interested in connecting with new people but I was also a perfectionist, so I was very nervous on my first OM. Am I putting my feet in the right place? Am I following the right procedures? The strokee was understanding and helped guide me. In subsequent OMs, I was aware of a feeling of serenity that took over me during the 15-minutes. I feels like I’m connected to my body. I’ll sometimes feel this energy releasing in my ears, warmth, my heart pounding.  I feel alive. I think that’s the simplest way to put it.

All my life I’ve been taught to be tough and strong, to be a high-level achiever, a medical professional. You’re not supposed to show your sadness, you’re supposed to be tough. But when you’re dealing with life, I’ve learned that’s not the best place to be.

I used to have a hard time accepting the uncertainty of life.  Not letting go made me stressed and angry, and I blamed other people. But I’ve learned through OM that not having everything structured is okay. Actually, the unknown is exciting. Every time you practice OM, either as a strokee or stroker, you’re in a vulnerable state. You never know how your partner is going to respond, how you’re going to respond.  Through practice, you learn to let go and be comfortable with that. You have the opportunity to express yourself within the controlled and safe environment of the container, which allows you to be vulnerable. That, to me, is powerful. I feel nurtured by that practice.

People have told me they think I just look happier. Recently, just before a meeting, I OMed. I was so present in that meeting. I then had an interaction with a female friend.  She felt like I was attentive to what she was talking about. I was receiving her and listening. I actually had an amazing day.

I’m a Christian Catholic. I still go to church. I’m spiritual, I sing, I connect with God, I pray, I love it. OMing has a spiritual component, if you can tap into that. In Christianity we preach a lot of love. OM is all about love.

What the practice teaches you is there’s not a perfect way of doing it, it’s just you, being in the perfect state when you’re doing it.  Take my kids, I can make a load of plans for their future, but ultimately, the future’s not in my control. The best I can do is be fully present when I’m with them and spend as much quality loving time as I can. I can create a container with them and get to talk to them, put attention on them, in a positive loving way. The container can be an analogy for life. In a world where everything is turned in to text messages and emails, connection is being lost.  I think OM has the potential to bridge that gap in our society.